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From Counsellor’s Desk: Positive Parenting solutions

 

 

 

 

 

 

THE FIRST 4 YEARS OF A CHILD’S LIFE : WHAT IS SO CRUCIAL ABOUT…  

 

 

 

Research shows that half of the child’s adult intelligence is formed during the first 4 years.   That is why it is crucial that parents provide their child the best possible environment at home and a pre-school which has a stimulating environment for it’s your child’s formative years that will shape his entire life.

 

Ø  The best time to develop physical abilities:  Let your child climb, run, try cycling, yoga, skating, taekwondo, this develops gross and fine motor skills through special aids and tools.

 

Ø  The best time to develop socio-emotional skills:It is the peer group at the school or the friends in the neighborhood which form the learning ground for children about the right behavior, friendship, sharing.   This is also the time when parents and his teachers should sow the seeds of invaluable life skills of confidence, leadership, self-reliance etc.,

 

Ø  The best time to develop intellect:   A child’s brain should be stimulated through toys, scientific tools, and specially designed abilities, perception, problem solving and form a scientific attitude.

 

Ø  The best time to develop language: Expose your child to as many languages as possible.   Start reading to him right from the age of six months.  Stage exposure at this age and opportunities to express are a must to home the child’s communication skills.

 

Ø  The best time to develop creativity:  Talents like dancing, singing, playing  musical instruments, painting, sculpting can be discovered and should be given direction not when the child grows up but when he is still in his formative years.    If you give unconditional love and appreciation to your precious child, there will be no looking back.

                                                               

 

 

                                                               

INFUSE RESPECT IN YOUR CHILD FOR THE TEACHERS.         

 

 

 

 Knowledge, guidance, wisdom, inspiration a child gets all this from his teachers.   And all this can transform your child and his life.   But this can only happen when your child trusts and respects his teachers.   You, as parents, can play a crucial role in developing in your child a deep respect for his teachers.

 

Ø  Don’t contradict the teacher in front of your child: If the teacher has made some error or when you disagree with him, don’t ever criticize or contradict him in front of the child.   Talk to the teacher privately and before that do remember, teacher too are human beings.

 

Ø   Don’t judge the teacher according to your child’s opinion:  Children may come with complaints about the teacher’s behavior or his teaching methods which may be a misinterpretation of your child.   Find out the reasons, discuss with the teacher and your child.   This will encourage your child to have open communication rather than complain about his teachers.

 

Ø  Discourage your child from talking disrespectfully about his teachers:  Calling names, making fun of clothes, imitating teacher is readily accepted by parents as a part of growing up.   But this shows the regard your child has for his teachers and how much he respects his authority.   Bring back his focus on the role the teacher plays in his life.

 

Ø   Encourage your child’s to exhibit respect towards the teachers:  A flower on teacher’s birthday, a card on Teacher’s Day, a’ ‘thank you’ note will build a bond of live between the teacher and your child.  Teaching will become much more interesting for the teacher and so will learning for your child.

 

 

 

 

TEENAGERS CAN BE EASY, IF PARENTS DON’T ACT DIFFICULT 

 

 

 

Parents justify that their child is stepping into teenage, so it’s quite natural to him/her to act a rebel. It’s possible that your teenager listens to you like he did when he was toddler. This is how this can be...

 

Ø   Let him grow out of your shadow:  A teenager is desperate and confused so as to how to assert his identity.  And when parents on the top of it try to restrict him, give him instructions, he rebels.   Parents should accept that their child has grown up and respect his need for freedom.

 

Ø   Respect his privacy:  Let your child spend time in his room by himself or with friends, without time and again expressing displeasure about this fact.   Don’t try to go through his belongings, spy on his friends, or constantly keep teach of his whereabouts.   This will disturb your child and make him feel that his parents don’t trust him.

 

 

Ø   Be a friend to your teenager:  Develop a relationship where your teenaged child feels comfortable to share his feelings with you – may it be on boys/ girls, fear of failure or anything, just like he does with his friends.   Open communication is a must if you want to help your child in his teenage.

 

Ø   Give him a strong value system:  You can’t tell your child all the time what to do and what not to.   Let his conscience be powerful enough to guide him.   A child, who is brought up in a home where culture, traditions & values are respected and followed, can hardly go astray.

 

Ø  Be there for your teenager:  Parents often feel that now their child is too grown up for hugs or there is no need to express love.   But teenage is an age when your child needs you even more.   Have warm chats, express your understanding, and assure your child that you’ll love him no matter what.   These gestures of love and empathy will bring him closer to you.